Benefits of Mediation
Mediation is an alternative way of resolving disputes between opposing parties as opposed to litigation. It can be used in the resolution of conflicts between parties who are in the process of divorce or who have already divorced. Issues are addressed such as child custody, child support, property division, spousal support, visitation rights, fathers' rights, or any other matter. In fact, mediation may be used to help resolve any dispute between any number of family members, domestic partners, or unmarried parents. If you or someone you know needs mediation assistance with a family law issue, please contact a premier attorney at Lynn Poster-Zimmerman, PC as soon as possible.
The Divorce Mediation Process
In divorce mediation, a mediator as a neutral third party helps the disputing parties negotiate their own settlement. Mediation is a structured process with a timetable and the mediator uses various techniques to foster constructive communication about the disputed issue between the opposing parties. A mediator is impartial and will only offer an opinion about the fairness of any aspect of the settlement if the parties desire it.
The mediator's primary goal is to help achieve an agreement that will work between the opposing parties. A good mediator is trained to handle conflict resolution and to work with situations that may be complicated, stressful, and highly charged for the individuals concerned. At our firm, we are dedicated to helping families achieve mutually agreeable resolutions through this confidential process.
Tips for a Successful Child Custody Mediation
It is vital that prior to any mediation process you prepare thoroughly and come up with a parenting plan of your own. Not only will it provide you with a clearer picture of what you want to get out of the mediation, it will reveal to your ex-spouse that you are invested in the future of your child. Figure out what is crucial for you so that it does not get left out of the mediation discussion. Overall though, remember to keep your focus on the needs of your child.
It is also important that you come with an open mind when you get together to negotiate. The neutral mediator will help guide the conversation, but it is equally important that you listen to your ex-spouse. Do not think of this time as a battle, but rather a brainstorm session to come up with a plan that is beneficial for everyone involved, especially your children.
Possibly the most critical aspect to remember is that this time is not about you. It isn't even about disputes and differences you have with your ex-spouse; it is all about your children. Communicate clearly and openly about your children and your desires. Instead of attacking each other, seek to address issues in a non-aggressive manner by focusing on the needs of the child, rather than describing what the other lacks.
Lastly, it may seem silly but it is good to keep the discussion light-hearted and balanced with humor. Think of the big picture and don't let your mediation get so tense that you completely forget about your child's best interests. Always consider what the mediator has to say and take breaks often if you feel that you are getting too bogged down. Adding in humor may lighten the mood and make it easier to get back to what both of you really want out of the situation. Understand that it may result in a compromise, but stay committed to achieving a solution that is best for you and your child.
Our Founding Attorney: A Skilled and Prominent Mediator
Attorney Lynn Poster-Zimmerman is a trained mediator who can provide capable mediation services for you and your family. She has
more than 29 years of legal experience in working with the emotional family law issues that many individuals may find difficult to resolve. With her skills as a mediator, through private and confidential sessions, you and your spouse or other family member may be able to reach an agreement that will save you the time, stress, and expense of lengthy litigation.